Robert C. Fuller
- Published in print:
- 2008
- Published Online:
- September 2008
- ISBN:
- 9780195369175
- eISBN:
- 9780199871186
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780195369175.003.0005
- Subject:
- Religion, Religion and Society
Sexuality represents a powerful life force within us, constituting our body's grand biological imperative. It should not surprise us, then, that our erotic energies often flow naturally into ...
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Sexuality represents a powerful life force within us, constituting our body's grand biological imperative. It should not surprise us, then, that our erotic energies often flow naturally into religious creativity. Recent research on the genetic basis of human sexuality identifies three separate programs responsible for lust, romantic love, and long‐term attachment. Religion, it seems, piggy‐backs on our threefold erotic desires. Eroticism thus plays an important role in luring individuals toward seeking union with attractive deities, forging devotional ties to a chosen lord, and forming long‐lasting commitments to the cultural codes thought to emanate from this beloved god. It is for this reason that sexuality is a uniquely powerful site for religious innovation, as can be seen in the sexually charged histories of several nineteenth‐century sectarian movements such as the Latter‐day Saints and the hundred‐year heritage of American Tantrism.Less
Sexuality represents a powerful life force within us, constituting our body's grand biological imperative. It should not surprise us, then, that our erotic energies often flow naturally into religious creativity. Recent research on the genetic basis of human sexuality identifies three separate programs responsible for lust, romantic love, and long‐term attachment. Religion, it seems, piggy‐backs on our threefold erotic desires. Eroticism thus plays an important role in luring individuals toward seeking union with attractive deities, forging devotional ties to a chosen lord, and forming long‐lasting commitments to the cultural codes thought to emanate from this beloved god. It is for this reason that sexuality is a uniquely powerful site for religious innovation, as can be seen in the sexually charged histories of several nineteenth‐century sectarian movements such as the Latter‐day Saints and the hundred‐year heritage of American Tantrism.
Marilyn Friedman
- Published in print:
- 2003
- Published Online:
- February 2006
- ISBN:
- 9780195138504
- eISBN:
- 9780199785902
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/0195138503.003.0006
- Subject:
- Philosophy, Feminist Philosophy
This chapter focuses on the ideal of a merger, fusion, or union of lovers in heterosexual romantic love. It explores a recent cultural ideal of love that places value on personal autonomy in romantic ...
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This chapter focuses on the ideal of a merger, fusion, or union of lovers in heterosexual romantic love. It explores a recent cultural ideal of love that places value on personal autonomy in romantic relationships, and sketches out some persistent gender asymmetries that compromise those trends. It is argued that even women who place overriding importance on romantic relationships need some degree of autonomy in love.Less
This chapter focuses on the ideal of a merger, fusion, or union of lovers in heterosexual romantic love. It explores a recent cultural ideal of love that places value on personal autonomy in romantic relationships, and sketches out some persistent gender asymmetries that compromise those trends. It is argued that even women who place overriding importance on romantic relationships need some degree of autonomy in love.
Robert C. Solomon
- Published in print:
- 2004
- Published Online:
- November 2004
- ISBN:
- 9780195145502
- eISBN:
- 9780199834969
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/019514550X.003.0008
- Subject:
- Philosophy, Philosophy of Mind
I suggest that erotic love is (or can be) a virtue. I contest both the cynicism and the vacuousness in much of the love literature. I argue that love is a historical emotion, involving a great deal ...
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I suggest that erotic love is (or can be) a virtue. I contest both the cynicism and the vacuousness in much of the love literature. I argue that love is a historical emotion, involving a great deal of historical and cultural variation. And I give an analysis of what love is as shared identity. On the way, I also talk about sex and Plato's Symposium.Less
I suggest that erotic love is (or can be) a virtue. I contest both the cynicism and the vacuousness in much of the love literature. I argue that love is a historical emotion, involving a great deal of historical and cultural variation. And I give an analysis of what love is as shared identity. On the way, I also talk about sex and Plato's Symposium.
Daniel J. Hruschka
- Published in print:
- 2010
- Published Online:
- May 2012
- ISBN:
- 9780520265462
- eISBN:
- 9780520947887
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- University of California Press
- DOI:
- 10.1525/california/9780520265462.003.0005
- Subject:
- Anthropology, Anthropology, Global
This chapter suggests that Oprah Winfrey's description of a friendship raises important questions about how sex, romance, and friendship fit together. Is it possible to have a “romantic” friendship ...
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This chapter suggests that Oprah Winfrey's description of a friendship raises important questions about how sex, romance, and friendship fit together. Is it possible to have a “romantic” friendship that feels like our stereotype of romance, with near obsessive affiliation and preoccupation with a partner, but that removes sexual desire? This chapter explores questions, differentiating the biosocial systems underlying different kinds of love that partners can feel for each other and examining how these different faces of love can interact in a single relationship. The anthropologist Helen Fisher proposes that these recurring folk distinctions reflect real differences in how our brains and bodies function in different relationships. Fisher argues that three distinct but intertwined drives—lust, romantic love, and attachment—play unique roles in the drama of human mating.Less
This chapter suggests that Oprah Winfrey's description of a friendship raises important questions about how sex, romance, and friendship fit together. Is it possible to have a “romantic” friendship that feels like our stereotype of romance, with near obsessive affiliation and preoccupation with a partner, but that removes sexual desire? This chapter explores questions, differentiating the biosocial systems underlying different kinds of love that partners can feel for each other and examining how these different faces of love can interact in a single relationship. The anthropologist Helen Fisher proposes that these recurring folk distinctions reflect real differences in how our brains and bodies function in different relationships. Fisher argues that three distinct but intertwined drives—lust, romantic love, and attachment—play unique roles in the drama of human mating.
Megan Vaughan
- Published in print:
- 2011
- Published Online:
- January 2012
- ISBN:
- 9780197264775
- eISBN:
- 9780191734984
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- British Academy
- DOI:
- 10.5871/bacad/9780197264775.003.0001
- Subject:
- History, Cultural History
This chapter looks at the history of romantic love in Sub-Saharan Africa. This text comes from a lecture given at the British Academy's 2009 Raleigh Lecture on History. This text attempts to explore ...
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This chapter looks at the history of romantic love in Sub-Saharan Africa. This text comes from a lecture given at the British Academy's 2009 Raleigh Lecture on History. This text attempts to explore some of the methodological and theoretical issues involved in an historical study of love in Africa. It argues that romantic love in Africa is not simply an extension of an imperialist cultural and political project and that emotional regimes cannot be divorced from economic circumstances. It explains that though the configurations of interest and emotion take specific forms in African societies, there is nothing peculiarly African about the evident need of individuals to balance realism and idealism in their emotional lives.Less
This chapter looks at the history of romantic love in Sub-Saharan Africa. This text comes from a lecture given at the British Academy's 2009 Raleigh Lecture on History. This text attempts to explore some of the methodological and theoretical issues involved in an historical study of love in Africa. It argues that romantic love in Africa is not simply an extension of an imperialist cultural and political project and that emotional regimes cannot be divorced from economic circumstances. It explains that though the configurations of interest and emotion take specific forms in African societies, there is nothing peculiarly African about the evident need of individuals to balance realism and idealism in their emotional lives.
C. Stephen Evans
- Published in print:
- 2004
- Published Online:
- January 2005
- ISBN:
- 9780199272174
- eISBN:
- 9780191602061
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/0199272174.003.0009
- Subject:
- Religion, Philosophy of Religion
When Kierkegaard tells us that we must not make ‘distinctions’ in our love, he does not mean that neighbour-love cannot coexist with such natural loves as romantic love and friendship. On the ...
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When Kierkegaard tells us that we must not make ‘distinctions’ in our love, he does not mean that neighbour-love cannot coexist with such natural loves as romantic love and friendship. On the contrary: Kierkegaard believes that neighbour-love teaches us how to love the friend and the beloved as we should. Concrete, local activity is not the only kind of neighbour-love that is possible or appropriate. Broader, cooperative efforts for those whom one may never meet fall within the scope of the divine command to love one’s neighbour as oneself, and this may require political and social action of a type that Kierkegaard himself does not endorse.Less
When Kierkegaard tells us that we must not make ‘distinctions’ in our love, he does not mean that neighbour-love cannot coexist with such natural loves as romantic love and friendship. On the contrary: Kierkegaard believes that neighbour-love teaches us how to love the friend and the beloved as we should. Concrete, local activity is not the only kind of neighbour-love that is possible or appropriate. Broader, cooperative efforts for those whom one may never meet fall within the scope of the divine command to love one’s neighbour as oneself, and this may require political and social action of a type that Kierkegaard himself does not endorse.
James E. Swain
- Published in print:
- 2011
- Published Online:
- January 2012
- ISBN:
- 9780195388107
- eISBN:
- 9780199918386
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780195388107.003.0042
- Subject:
- Psychology, Social Psychology
Intense interpersonal relationships are critical aspects of human life. Important examples are parental and romantic love. Each include a set of highly conserved behaviors and mental states that ...
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Intense interpersonal relationships are critical aspects of human life. Important examples are parental and romantic love. Each include a set of highly conserved behaviors and mental states that reflect genetic endowment and the early experience of being cared for as a child, as well as current factors. This essay selectively reviews the brain circuits and hormones that underpin these states, beginning from animal work and proceeding to hormone and brain imaging work on humans. Under hormonal and environmental influence, key limbic-hypothalamic-midbrain structures, in concert with partly overlapping integration and regulatory cortical brain areas shape human responses to psychosocial stimuli for adaptive behaviors in parental and romantic love situations. These same circuits may also dictate risk and resiliency to various forms of human psychopathology, including anxiety, depression and addiction.Less
Intense interpersonal relationships are critical aspects of human life. Important examples are parental and romantic love. Each include a set of highly conserved behaviors and mental states that reflect genetic endowment and the early experience of being cared for as a child, as well as current factors. This essay selectively reviews the brain circuits and hormones that underpin these states, beginning from animal work and proceeding to hormone and brain imaging work on humans. Under hormonal and environmental influence, key limbic-hypothalamic-midbrain structures, in concert with partly overlapping integration and regulatory cortical brain areas shape human responses to psychosocial stimuli for adaptive behaviors in parental and romantic love situations. These same circuits may also dictate risk and resiliency to various forms of human psychopathology, including anxiety, depression and addiction.
Jeffrey Blustein
- Published in print:
- 1992
- Published Online:
- October 2011
- ISBN:
- 9780195067996
- eISBN:
- 9780199852895
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780195067996.003.0017
- Subject:
- Philosophy, Moral Philosophy
This chapter discusses love and friendship. It provides explanation of love that is directly targeted on a particular person and sets aside the love of inanimate objects, of God, of humanity in ...
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This chapter discusses love and friendship. It provides explanation of love that is directly targeted on a particular person and sets aside the love of inanimate objects, of God, of humanity in general. There is the love of a parent for a child, of a sibling for a sibling, of a friend for a friend, of a lover for a lover. Friendship in particular is neither necessary nor sufficient for love, but in close friendships the depth of the concern and care amounts to love, and the love of friends, unlike parental love, is a love that insists on equality and does not preclude sexuality. It discusses in detail the different types of personal love namely: Platonic love, romantic love, sexual love, parental love, and love of friends which is regarded as the deepest kind of friendship.Less
This chapter discusses love and friendship. It provides explanation of love that is directly targeted on a particular person and sets aside the love of inanimate objects, of God, of humanity in general. There is the love of a parent for a child, of a sibling for a sibling, of a friend for a friend, of a lover for a lover. Friendship in particular is neither necessary nor sufficient for love, but in close friendships the depth of the concern and care amounts to love, and the love of friends, unlike parental love, is a love that insists on equality and does not preclude sexuality. It discusses in detail the different types of personal love namely: Platonic love, romantic love, sexual love, parental love, and love of friends which is regarded as the deepest kind of friendship.
Caroline Franklin
- Published in print:
- 1992
- Published Online:
- October 2011
- ISBN:
- 9780198112303
- eISBN:
- 9780191670763
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780198112303.003.0002
- Subject:
- Literature, 19th-century Literature and Romanticism
Male-authored Regency verse romances, published in the first fifteen years of the century, are examined initially as a group with regard to their ideology of gender. Irene Tayler and Gina Luria have ...
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Male-authored Regency verse romances, published in the first fifteen years of the century, are examined initially as a group with regard to their ideology of gender. Irene Tayler and Gina Luria have suggested that genre itself may be a function of gender in this period, because the novel was dominated by female authors, readers, and protagonists, while the canon of Romantic poets is entirely male. It was self-consciously feminine both in its polished crafsmanship and in its sentimental celebration of domesticity. The relationship between female-authored poetry and male Romanticism is therefore problematic for literary historians. This chapter suggests that male Regency poets therefore compensated by emphasising historical or mythic active adventure, minimising the theme of romantic love, and suffusing the issue of female chastity with the ideology of patriotism.Less
Male-authored Regency verse romances, published in the first fifteen years of the century, are examined initially as a group with regard to their ideology of gender. Irene Tayler and Gina Luria have suggested that genre itself may be a function of gender in this period, because the novel was dominated by female authors, readers, and protagonists, while the canon of Romantic poets is entirely male. It was self-consciously feminine both in its polished crafsmanship and in its sentimental celebration of domesticity. The relationship between female-authored poetry and male Romanticism is therefore problematic for literary historians. This chapter suggests that male Regency poets therefore compensated by emphasising historical or mythic active adventure, minimising the theme of romantic love, and suffusing the issue of female chastity with the ideology of patriotism.
Ron Johnston (ed.)
- Published in print:
- 2011
- Published Online:
- January 2012
- ISBN:
- 9780197264775
- eISBN:
- 9780191734984
- Item type:
- book
- Publisher:
- British Academy
- DOI:
- 10.5871/bacad/9780197264775.001.0001
- Subject:
- History, Cultural History
This volume contains sixteen chapters which contain the text of lectures delivered at the British Academy in 2008–10. From romantic love in sub-Saharan Africa to the British industrial revolution, ...
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This volume contains sixteen chapters which contain the text of lectures delivered at the British Academy in 2008–10. From romantic love in sub-Saharan Africa to the British industrial revolution, from John Donne to Arthur Miller, from surrealism to Chinese flower imagery, this book demonstrates unparalleled breadth and depth of scholarship.Less
This volume contains sixteen chapters which contain the text of lectures delivered at the British Academy in 2008–10. From romantic love in sub-Saharan Africa to the British industrial revolution, from John Donne to Arthur Miller, from surrealism to Chinese flower imagery, this book demonstrates unparalleled breadth and depth of scholarship.
Robert C. Solomon
- Published in print:
- 2008
- Published Online:
- October 2011
- ISBN:
- 9780195368536
- eISBN:
- 9780199852031
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780195368536.003.0005
- Subject:
- Philosophy, Philosophy of Mind
This chapter turns to perhaps the most overdiscussed emotion: love. It focuses on eros, which is the word Plato uses. It is erotic or sexual, or what we now (since the romantic period) call ...
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This chapter turns to perhaps the most overdiscussed emotion: love. It focuses on eros, which is the word Plato uses. It is erotic or sexual, or what we now (since the romantic period) call “romantic” love. What all forms of love share is a peculiar intentional structure, the conception of one's self as intertwined and fused with another. In parenthood, one loves what is quite literally a part of one's own identity. In friendship—true friendship, that is—one comes to think of one's friend as inseparable from oneself. But it is in erotic love, which tends to be exclusive, that this “merging” of selves is most profound.Less
This chapter turns to perhaps the most overdiscussed emotion: love. It focuses on eros, which is the word Plato uses. It is erotic or sexual, or what we now (since the romantic period) call “romantic” love. What all forms of love share is a peculiar intentional structure, the conception of one's self as intertwined and fused with another. In parenthood, one loves what is quite literally a part of one's own identity. In friendship—true friendship, that is—one comes to think of one's friend as inseparable from oneself. But it is in erotic love, which tends to be exclusive, that this “merging” of selves is most profound.
Marilyn Friedman
- Published in print:
- 2003
- Published Online:
- February 2006
- ISBN:
- 9780195138504
- eISBN:
- 9780199785902
- Item type:
- book
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/0195138503.001.0001
- Subject:
- Philosophy, Feminist Philosophy
Women have historically been prevented from living autonomously by systematic injustice, subordination, and oppression. The lingering effects of these practices have prompted many feminists to view ...
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Women have historically been prevented from living autonomously by systematic injustice, subordination, and oppression. The lingering effects of these practices have prompted many feminists to view autonomy with suspicion. This book defends the ideal of feminist autonomy. The book proposes that behavior is autonomous if it accords with the wants, cares, values, or commitments that the actor has reaffirmed and is able to sustain in the face of opposition. By this account, autonomy is socially grounded yet also individualizing and sometimes socially disruptive, qualities that can be ultimately advantageous for women. The book applies the concept of autonomy to domains of special interest to women. It defends the importance of autonomy in romantic love, considers how social institutions should respond to women who choose to remain in abusive relationships, and argues that liberal societies should tolerate minority cultural practices that violate women's rights so long as the women in question have chosen autonomously to live according to those practices.Less
Women have historically been prevented from living autonomously by systematic injustice, subordination, and oppression. The lingering effects of these practices have prompted many feminists to view autonomy with suspicion. This book defends the ideal of feminist autonomy. The book proposes that behavior is autonomous if it accords with the wants, cares, values, or commitments that the actor has reaffirmed and is able to sustain in the face of opposition. By this account, autonomy is socially grounded yet also individualizing and sometimes socially disruptive, qualities that can be ultimately advantageous for women. The book applies the concept of autonomy to domains of special interest to women. It defends the importance of autonomy in romantic love, considers how social institutions should respond to women who choose to remain in abusive relationships, and argues that liberal societies should tolerate minority cultural practices that violate women's rights so long as the women in question have chosen autonomously to live according to those practices.
Eugene Garver
- Published in print:
- 2018
- Published Online:
- May 2019
- ISBN:
- 9780226575568
- eISBN:
- 9780226575735
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- University of Chicago Press
- DOI:
- 10.7208/chicago/9780226575735.003.0005
- Subject:
- Philosophy, History of Philosophy
Chapter 4 explores a specific pathology of the human imagination, that of romantic love. The cunning of imagination appears here: romantic love is a parody of devotion to God. In contrast to the ...
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Chapter 4 explores a specific pathology of the human imagination, that of romantic love. The cunning of imagination appears here: romantic love is a parody of devotion to God. In contrast to the universal creed of the TTP, which is a set of imaginative ideas that bring people together in a community of justice and charity, romantic love is not a stepping-stone to such devotion but a distraction from it. People have a more powerful imagination than other beings, but that power does not always benefit those who possess it. That is why ethical progress will never be smooth.Less
Chapter 4 explores a specific pathology of the human imagination, that of romantic love. The cunning of imagination appears here: romantic love is a parody of devotion to God. In contrast to the universal creed of the TTP, which is a set of imaginative ideas that bring people together in a community of justice and charity, romantic love is not a stepping-stone to such devotion but a distraction from it. People have a more powerful imagination than other beings, but that power does not always benefit those who possess it. That is why ethical progress will never be smooth.
Irving Singer
- Published in print:
- 2009
- Published Online:
- August 2013
- ISBN:
- 9780262512732
- eISBN:
- 9780262315128
- Item type:
- book
- Publisher:
- The MIT Press
- DOI:
- 10.7551/mitpress/9780262512732.001.0001
- Subject:
- Philosophy, General
This second volume of the author’s trilogy The Nature of Love studies the ideas and ideals of medieval courtly love and nineteenth-century Romantic love, as well as the transition between these two ...
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This second volume of the author’s trilogy The Nature of Love studies the ideas and ideals of medieval courtly love and nineteenth-century Romantic love, as well as the transition between these two perspectives. According to the traditions of courtly love in the twelfth century and thereafter, not only God but also human beings in themselves are capable of authentic love. The pursuit of love between man and woman was seen as a splendid ideal that ennobles both the lover and the beloved. It was something more than libidinal sexuality and involved sophisticated and highly refined courtliness that emulated religious love in its ability to create a holy union between the participants. Adherents to Romantic love in later centuries affirmed the capacity of love to effect a merging between two people who thus became one. The author analyzes the transition from courtly to Romantic love by reference to the writings of many artists beginning with Dante and ending with Richard Wagner, as well as Neoplatonist philosophers of the Italian Renaissance, Descartes, Spinoza, Rousseau, Hume, Kant, Hegel, and Schopenhauer. In relation to romanticism itself, he distinguishes between two aspects—“benign romanticism” and “Romantic pessimism”—that took on renewed importance in the twentieth century.Less
This second volume of the author’s trilogy The Nature of Love studies the ideas and ideals of medieval courtly love and nineteenth-century Romantic love, as well as the transition between these two perspectives. According to the traditions of courtly love in the twelfth century and thereafter, not only God but also human beings in themselves are capable of authentic love. The pursuit of love between man and woman was seen as a splendid ideal that ennobles both the lover and the beloved. It was something more than libidinal sexuality and involved sophisticated and highly refined courtliness that emulated religious love in its ability to create a holy union between the participants. Adherents to Romantic love in later centuries affirmed the capacity of love to effect a merging between two people who thus became one. The author analyzes the transition from courtly to Romantic love by reference to the writings of many artists beginning with Dante and ending with Richard Wagner, as well as Neoplatonist philosophers of the Italian Renaissance, Descartes, Spinoza, Rousseau, Hume, Kant, Hegel, and Schopenhauer. In relation to romanticism itself, he distinguishes between two aspects—“benign romanticism” and “Romantic pessimism”—that took on renewed importance in the twentieth century.
- Published in print:
- 2011
- Published Online:
- March 2013
- ISBN:
- 9780226857923
- eISBN:
- 9780226857954
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- University of Chicago Press
- DOI:
- 10.7208/chicago/9780226857954.003.0003
- Subject:
- History, Asian History
This chapter examines the concept of friendship in relation to love between men in late Imperial China. It argues that the very concept of love circulating in late Ming culture was fundamentally ...
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This chapter examines the concept of friendship in relation to love between men in late Imperial China. It argues that the very concept of love circulating in late Ming culture was fundamentally influenced by the chivalric ideal of friendship between two men and that the egalitarian homosocial model of male friendship played a crucial role in shaping the generic concept of romantic love, irrespective of the gender of the lovers involved. The chapter also details the intellectual context of the rise of the so-called cult of love in the late Ming period.Less
This chapter examines the concept of friendship in relation to love between men in late Imperial China. It argues that the very concept of love circulating in late Ming culture was fundamentally influenced by the chivalric ideal of friendship between two men and that the egalitarian homosocial model of male friendship played a crucial role in shaping the generic concept of romantic love, irrespective of the gender of the lovers involved. The chapter also details the intellectual context of the rise of the so-called cult of love in the late Ming period.
John O'Brien
- Published in print:
- 2019
- Published Online:
- May 2020
- ISBN:
- 9780691197111
- eISBN:
- 9781400888696
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Princeton University Press
- DOI:
- 10.23943/princeton/9780691197111.003.0004
- Subject:
- Religion, Islam
This chapter examines two distinct models through which members of the Legendz attempted to reconcile the contradictions between Islamic expectations of premarital gender relations and their ...
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This chapter examines two distinct models through which members of the Legendz attempted to reconcile the contradictions between Islamic expectations of premarital gender relations and their participation in American-style teenage romantic relationships. Yusuf and Salman sought to manage this dilemma by articulating and pursuing an overtly Islamic approach to dating which they called “keeping it halal.” “Keeping it halal” entailed an explicit labeling of their romantic activity as Islamically appropriate (halal) as well as a stated commitment to setting specific limits on physical intimacy. This approach was initially attractive to these young men because it promised a level of cultural clarity and emphasized an attractive similarity between states of romantic love and Islamic piety. While “keeping it halal” worked well as an articulated aspiration and an initial guide for young Muslim Americans' behavior while dating in America, its effectiveness as a lasting strategy for reconciling teenage dating and Islamic morality eventually fell short for those who attempted it. Exemplifying an alternative approach to managing the dilemma of dating as a young Muslim, Abdul, Muhammad, and Fuad avoided articulating their dating relationships within an explicitly Islamic moral framework or by setting clear boundaries on physical intimacy. Instead, they emphasized the aspects of their relationships that aligned with a culture of romantic love while trying to keep Islamic understandings present but marginal and the possibility of physical intimacy alive but obscure by discussing such subjects in strategically ambiguous ways.Less
This chapter examines two distinct models through which members of the Legendz attempted to reconcile the contradictions between Islamic expectations of premarital gender relations and their participation in American-style teenage romantic relationships. Yusuf and Salman sought to manage this dilemma by articulating and pursuing an overtly Islamic approach to dating which they called “keeping it halal.” “Keeping it halal” entailed an explicit labeling of their romantic activity as Islamically appropriate (halal) as well as a stated commitment to setting specific limits on physical intimacy. This approach was initially attractive to these young men because it promised a level of cultural clarity and emphasized an attractive similarity between states of romantic love and Islamic piety. While “keeping it halal” worked well as an articulated aspiration and an initial guide for young Muslim Americans' behavior while dating in America, its effectiveness as a lasting strategy for reconciling teenage dating and Islamic morality eventually fell short for those who attempted it. Exemplifying an alternative approach to managing the dilemma of dating as a young Muslim, Abdul, Muhammad, and Fuad avoided articulating their dating relationships within an explicitly Islamic moral framework or by setting clear boundaries on physical intimacy. Instead, they emphasized the aspects of their relationships that aligned with a culture of romantic love while trying to keep Islamic understandings present but marginal and the possibility of physical intimacy alive but obscure by discussing such subjects in strategically ambiguous ways.
William M. Reddy
- Published in print:
- 2012
- Published Online:
- September 2013
- ISBN:
- 9780226706269
- eISBN:
- 9780226706283
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- University of Chicago Press
- DOI:
- 10.7208/chicago/9780226706283.003.0001
- Subject:
- History, World Medieval History
This introductory chapter discusses the main themes covered in this book, which explores the historical origins of the Western conception of romantic love. It shows that this very specific, Western ...
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This introductory chapter discusses the main themes covered in this book, which explores the historical origins of the Western conception of romantic love. It shows that this very specific, Western conception of romantic love was first formulated in the twelfth century. The making of “courtly love,” the medieval version of romantic love, in twelfth-century Europe is compared to the very different practices of sexual partnerships in two other places: in regional kingdoms of Bengal and Orissa in the ninth through twelfth centuries; and among the imperial aristocracy of Heian Japan in the tenth and eleventh centuries. The chapter also discusses the “longing for association” as a type of emotion; the current science of sexual desire; the anthropology of romantic love; how romantic love appears to lock men and women into very rigid roles; and romantic love and the history of sexuality.Less
This introductory chapter discusses the main themes covered in this book, which explores the historical origins of the Western conception of romantic love. It shows that this very specific, Western conception of romantic love was first formulated in the twelfth century. The making of “courtly love,” the medieval version of romantic love, in twelfth-century Europe is compared to the very different practices of sexual partnerships in two other places: in regional kingdoms of Bengal and Orissa in the ninth through twelfth centuries; and among the imperial aristocracy of Heian Japan in the tenth and eleventh centuries. The chapter also discusses the “longing for association” as a type of emotion; the current science of sexual desire; the anthropology of romantic love; how romantic love appears to lock men and women into very rigid roles; and romantic love and the history of sexuality.
Jennifer M. Tomlinson and Arthur Aron
- Published in print:
- 2013
- Published Online:
- September 2013
- ISBN:
- 9780199791064
- eISBN:
- 9780199345199
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780199791064.003.0001
- Subject:
- Psychology, Social Psychology, Developmental Psychology
Romantic love can be one of life’s most exhilarating and meaningful experiences, providing strong potential for self-growth. Recent research suggests that many positive processes occur within healthy ...
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Romantic love can be one of life’s most exhilarating and meaningful experiences, providing strong potential for self-growth. Recent research suggests that many positive processes occur within healthy love relationships, benefitting both the self and the relationship. This chapter provides a brief overview of the current state of knowledge of the positive psychology of romantic love, including definitions, theoretical models, and the role of individual and group differences. We begin with a review of relevant theories and their specific implications for positive psychology. We then focus in more detail on one specific conceptual framework, the self-expansion model of love (Aron & Aron, 1986) that has particularly direct implications in this context. The self-expansion model focuses on how love supports positive development through providing meaning and helping one to self-expand (increase one’s potential self-efficacy). We conclude with a consideration of future directions.Less
Romantic love can be one of life’s most exhilarating and meaningful experiences, providing strong potential for self-growth. Recent research suggests that many positive processes occur within healthy love relationships, benefitting both the self and the relationship. This chapter provides a brief overview of the current state of knowledge of the positive psychology of romantic love, including definitions, theoretical models, and the role of individual and group differences. We begin with a review of relevant theories and their specific implications for positive psychology. We then focus in more detail on one specific conceptual framework, the self-expansion model of love (Aron & Aron, 1986) that has particularly direct implications in this context. The self-expansion model focuses on how love supports positive development through providing meaning and helping one to self-expand (increase one’s potential self-efficacy). We conclude with a consideration of future directions.
James MacDowell
- Published in print:
- 2013
- Published Online:
- January 2014
- ISBN:
- 9780748680177
- eISBN:
- 9780748693825
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Edinburgh University Press
- DOI:
- 10.3366/edinburgh/9780748680177.003.0005
- Subject:
- Film, Television and Radio, Film
The Hollywood ‘happy ending’ is almost universally taken to be inherently ideological conservative, in part because of traditions in literary and film theory that portray narrative closure itself as ...
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The Hollywood ‘happy ending’ is almost universally taken to be inherently ideological conservative, in part because of traditions in literary and film theory that portray narrative closure itself as ideologically pernicious. This chapter approaches the issue of ideology from three angles. Firstly addressing the broad question of popular art's ideological influence itself, it discusses (with particular reference to Before Sunrise [1995]) what potential the concept of the final couple might be said to have for structuring viewers’ real-life romantic relationships. Secondly, it takes up the question of the ideological effects of closure, particularly as they relate to the model of the self-consciously artificial ‘happy ending’ made especially famous by much critical work on the films of Douglas Sirk. The chapter concludes by addressing several historically-distinct endings taken from what is often considered an innately ‘conservative’ genre, the romantic comedy. The chapter concludes by arguing that the ideological significance of the final couple will tend to rest less on the convention's mere presence than in the particulars of its presentation.Less
The Hollywood ‘happy ending’ is almost universally taken to be inherently ideological conservative, in part because of traditions in literary and film theory that portray narrative closure itself as ideologically pernicious. This chapter approaches the issue of ideology from three angles. Firstly addressing the broad question of popular art's ideological influence itself, it discusses (with particular reference to Before Sunrise [1995]) what potential the concept of the final couple might be said to have for structuring viewers’ real-life romantic relationships. Secondly, it takes up the question of the ideological effects of closure, particularly as they relate to the model of the self-consciously artificial ‘happy ending’ made especially famous by much critical work on the films of Douglas Sirk. The chapter concludes by addressing several historically-distinct endings taken from what is often considered an innately ‘conservative’ genre, the romantic comedy. The chapter concludes by arguing that the ideological significance of the final couple will tend to rest less on the convention's mere presence than in the particulars of its presentation.
Catherine J. Golden
- Published in print:
- 2009
- Published Online:
- September 2011
- ISBN:
- 9780813033792
- eISBN:
- 9780813039336
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- University Press of Florida
- DOI:
- 10.5744/florida/9780813033792.003.0006
- Subject:
- Literature, 19th-century and Victorian Literature
This chapter considers beneficial types of communication that one can trace to the Victorian letter-writing boom following postal reform. Staying connected with friends and relatives across the new ...
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This chapter considers beneficial types of communication that one can trace to the Victorian letter-writing boom following postal reform. Staying connected with friends and relatives across the new class society was a central reason why the Victorians believed they needed Post Office reform. Accordingly, letters of mourning, advice, friendship, health, courtship, law, business, as well as valentines, although in use prior to Uniform Penny Postage, rose in popularity following reform, offering evidence that the reformed Post Office enabled many more Victorians to reach out to others and stay connected, much as postal reformers had hoped. Calling upon a range of visual and textual sources, this chapter examines postal commodities that carry memories of Victorian mourning, family and friendship ties, and courtship rituals during a period where home and family were sacrosanct, romantic love increasingly affected marriage choices, and death palpably informed daily life.Less
This chapter considers beneficial types of communication that one can trace to the Victorian letter-writing boom following postal reform. Staying connected with friends and relatives across the new class society was a central reason why the Victorians believed they needed Post Office reform. Accordingly, letters of mourning, advice, friendship, health, courtship, law, business, as well as valentines, although in use prior to Uniform Penny Postage, rose in popularity following reform, offering evidence that the reformed Post Office enabled many more Victorians to reach out to others and stay connected, much as postal reformers had hoped. Calling upon a range of visual and textual sources, this chapter examines postal commodities that carry memories of Victorian mourning, family and friendship ties, and courtship rituals during a period where home and family were sacrosanct, romantic love increasingly affected marriage choices, and death palpably informed daily life.
