Lynne Dale Halamish and Doron Hermoni
- Published in print:
- 2007
- Published Online:
- November 2011
- ISBN:
- 9780195325379
- eISBN:
- 9780199999811
- Item type:
- book
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780195325379.001.0001
- Subject:
- Palliative Care, Patient Care and End-of-Life Decision Making, Palliative Medicine and Older People
This book is a practical and direct handbook for grieving. It presents 30 stories from real life that examine how we grieve and how we can help those who grieve—whether the griever is oneself, ...
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This book is a practical and direct handbook for grieving. It presents 30 stories from real life that examine how we grieve and how we can help those who grieve—whether the griever is oneself, someone we care about, or a client or patient. The authors present vignettes from practice that show how death—lingering, unexpected, violent, or self-inflicted—and the loss of a relationship—to oneself or with a child, sibling, parent, mate, grandparent, or friend—give life to grief, together with the process by which each person fully encounters his or her grief. Each story is no more than two or three pages, and the authors follow each one with a short summary of its teachings and a selection of annotated recent references for those who wish to read more about a topic.Less
This book is a practical and direct handbook for grieving. It presents 30 stories from real life that examine how we grieve and how we can help those who grieve—whether the griever is oneself, someone we care about, or a client or patient. The authors present vignettes from practice that show how death—lingering, unexpected, violent, or self-inflicted—and the loss of a relationship—to oneself or with a child, sibling, parent, mate, grandparent, or friend—give life to grief, together with the process by which each person fully encounters his or her grief. Each story is no more than two or three pages, and the authors follow each one with a short summary of its teachings and a selection of annotated recent references for those who wish to read more about a topic.
Lynne Dale Halamish and Doron Hermoni
- Published in print:
- 2007
- Published Online:
- November 2011
- ISBN:
- 9780195325379
- eISBN:
- 9780199999811
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780195325379.003.0008
- Subject:
- Palliative Care, Patient Care and End-of-Life Decision Making, Palliative Medicine and Older People
This chapter discusses ways of dealing with the repercussions of sibling death on children, describing the case of a three-year-old boy who was grieving after his brother was killed in a battle in ...
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This chapter discusses ways of dealing with the repercussions of sibling death on children, describing the case of a three-year-old boy who was grieving after his brother was killed in a battle in Lebanon. It explains that it is normal to expect long-term repercussions of sibling death, and suggests talking to children with all honesty and answering all their questions about sibling death.Less
This chapter discusses ways of dealing with the repercussions of sibling death on children, describing the case of a three-year-old boy who was grieving after his brother was killed in a battle in Lebanon. It explains that it is normal to expect long-term repercussions of sibling death, and suggests talking to children with all honesty and answering all their questions about sibling death.
Lynne Dale Halamish and Doron Hermoni
- Published in print:
- 2007
- Published Online:
- November 2011
- ISBN:
- 9780195325379
- eISBN:
- 9780199999811
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780195325379.003.0011
- Subject:
- Palliative Care, Patient Care and End-of-Life Decision Making, Palliative Medicine and Older People
This chapter focuses on individuals dealing with the worst kind of death of loved ones. It discusses the difference between losing a parent and losing a child, and describes the case of a 15-year-old ...
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This chapter focuses on individuals dealing with the worst kind of death of loved ones. It discusses the difference between losing a parent and losing a child, and describes the case of a 15-year-old boy named Joel who lost his entire family in a terrorist bombing. The chapter explains that grieving in situations such as this takes a long time and suggests that although one person's grief can be compared with another's, it is important not to forget the specific situation of the person one is talking to.Less
This chapter focuses on individuals dealing with the worst kind of death of loved ones. It discusses the difference between losing a parent and losing a child, and describes the case of a 15-year-old boy named Joel who lost his entire family in a terrorist bombing. The chapter explains that grieving in situations such as this takes a long time and suggests that although one person's grief can be compared with another's, it is important not to forget the specific situation of the person one is talking to.
Lynne Dale Halamish and Doron Hermoni
- Published in print:
- 2007
- Published Online:
- November 2011
- ISBN:
- 9780195325379
- eISBN:
- 9780199999811
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780195325379.003.0017
- Subject:
- Palliative Care, Patient Care and End-of-Life Decision Making, Palliative Medicine and Older People
This chapter discusses ways of dealing with a grieving person who is thinking of committing suicide, describing the case of Paula, who became very distressed over the death of the young girl she had ...
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This chapter discusses ways of dealing with a grieving person who is thinking of committing suicide, describing the case of Paula, who became very distressed over the death of the young girl she had been caring for. In her conservation with the author, she described an easily accomplished and well-thought-out plan to kill herself and her only son. The chapter explains that many people who commit suicide see physicians within three months prior to the act and that it is important for physicians to refer these people to professionals who can accurately evaluate their suicidal intentions.Less
This chapter discusses ways of dealing with a grieving person who is thinking of committing suicide, describing the case of Paula, who became very distressed over the death of the young girl she had been caring for. In her conservation with the author, she described an easily accomplished and well-thought-out plan to kill herself and her only son. The chapter explains that many people who commit suicide see physicians within three months prior to the act and that it is important for physicians to refer these people to professionals who can accurately evaluate their suicidal intentions.
Lynne Dale Halamish and Doron Hermoni
- Published in print:
- 2007
- Published Online:
- November 2011
- ISBN:
- 9780195325379
- eISBN:
- 9780199999811
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780195325379.003.0021
- Subject:
- Palliative Care, Patient Care and End-of-Life Decision Making, Palliative Medicine and Older People
This chapter discusses ways of changing destructive perceptions of those grieving over the death of a loved one, describing the case of seven-year-old girl, Jenna, who was told by the rabbi, and ...
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This chapter discusses ways of changing destructive perceptions of those grieving over the death of a loved one, describing the case of seven-year-old girl, Jenna, who was told by the rabbi, and believed, that her deceased brother would be punished in heaven because her mother was always crying over him. It explains that there are several strategies for changing someone's destructive perception, including direct confrontation, but care must be taken to choose a strategy which is likely to work with that individual.Less
This chapter discusses ways of changing destructive perceptions of those grieving over the death of a loved one, describing the case of seven-year-old girl, Jenna, who was told by the rabbi, and believed, that her deceased brother would be punished in heaven because her mother was always crying over him. It explains that there are several strategies for changing someone's destructive perception, including direct confrontation, but care must be taken to choose a strategy which is likely to work with that individual.
Lynne Dale Halamish and Doron Hermoni
- Published in print:
- 2007
- Published Online:
- November 2011
- ISBN:
- 9780195325379
- eISBN:
- 9780199999811
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780195325379.003.0024
- Subject:
- Palliative Care, Patient Care and End-of-Life Decision Making, Palliative Medicine and Older People
This chapter discusses the issue concerning who should be part of the mourning rituals. It describes the case of Edna, a woman in her seventies, who was having second thoughts about letting her ...
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This chapter discusses the issue concerning who should be part of the mourning rituals. It describes the case of Edna, a woman in her seventies, who was having second thoughts about letting her children attend the funeral of her husband or their father because of some conflict. The chapter suggests including as many people as possible in the support network in order to lessen the load on each grieving individual, and also to lesson the possibility of resentment between family members. All family members should attend the formal mourning rituals.Less
This chapter discusses the issue concerning who should be part of the mourning rituals. It describes the case of Edna, a woman in her seventies, who was having second thoughts about letting her children attend the funeral of her husband or their father because of some conflict. The chapter suggests including as many people as possible in the support network in order to lessen the load on each grieving individual, and also to lesson the possibility of resentment between family members. All family members should attend the formal mourning rituals.
Lynne Dale Halamish and Doron Hermoni
- Published in print:
- 2007
- Published Online:
- November 2011
- ISBN:
- 9780195325379
- eISBN:
- 9780199999811
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780195325379.003.0026
- Subject:
- Palliative Care, Patient Care and End-of-Life Decision Making, Palliative Medicine and Older People
This chapter discusses how to act appropriately around grieving individuals, describing the case of Shula, a mother grieving over the death of her son, and who received discouraging words from her ...
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This chapter discusses how to act appropriately around grieving individuals, describing the case of Shula, a mother grieving over the death of her son, and who received discouraging words from her so-called comforters. It explains that mourners are in a very vulnerable state following the death of their loved one and that things said lightly or thoughtlessly can be taken very hard. The chapter suggests that one appropriate way to enter a house of mourning is silently, and also provides recommended comforting words to say to a mourner.Less
This chapter discusses how to act appropriately around grieving individuals, describing the case of Shula, a mother grieving over the death of her son, and who received discouraging words from her so-called comforters. It explains that mourners are in a very vulnerable state following the death of their loved one and that things said lightly or thoughtlessly can be taken very hard. The chapter suggests that one appropriate way to enter a house of mourning is silently, and also provides recommended comforting words to say to a mourner.
Lynne Dale Halamish and Doron Hermoni
- Published in print:
- 2007
- Published Online:
- November 2011
- ISBN:
- 9780195325379
- eISBN:
- 9780199999811
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780195325379.003.0030
- Subject:
- Palliative Care, Patient Care and End-of-Life Decision Making, Palliative Medicine and Older People
This chapter focuses on the identification of bereaved siblings with the deceased, describing the case of nine-year-old Dawn, who wanted to finish the life of her deceased brother for him. It ...
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This chapter focuses on the identification of bereaved siblings with the deceased, describing the case of nine-year-old Dawn, who wanted to finish the life of her deceased brother for him. It explains that bereaved siblings sometimes feel obligated to replace the deceased sibling, and that though this may seem well-meaning, it is problematic for the sibling. The chapter discusses the importance for parents of giving explicit permission and direction to remaining children to continue to be who they are, and not try to replace their deceased sibling.Less
This chapter focuses on the identification of bereaved siblings with the deceased, describing the case of nine-year-old Dawn, who wanted to finish the life of her deceased brother for him. It explains that bereaved siblings sometimes feel obligated to replace the deceased sibling, and that though this may seem well-meaning, it is problematic for the sibling. The chapter discusses the importance for parents of giving explicit permission and direction to remaining children to continue to be who they are, and not try to replace their deceased sibling.
Robert Wyatt and John Andrew Johnson
- Published in print:
- 2007
- Published Online:
- October 2011
- ISBN:
- 9780195327113
- eISBN:
- 9780199851249
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780195327113.003.0071
- Subject:
- Music, Popular
This chapter presents the text of a series of daily reports about the funeral of George Gershwin which were published in Variety magazine. The reports provide detailed accounts of the situation, ...
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This chapter presents the text of a series of daily reports about the funeral of George Gershwin which were published in Variety magazine. The reports provide detailed accounts of the situation, preparations, and services following Gershwin's death. One report notes that about 4,000 mourners defied the rain to attend the funeral services at Temple Emanu-El in New York and another report that the grieving in both the East and West Coast in the US.Less
This chapter presents the text of a series of daily reports about the funeral of George Gershwin which were published in Variety magazine. The reports provide detailed accounts of the situation, preparations, and services following Gershwin's death. One report notes that about 4,000 mourners defied the rain to attend the funeral services at Temple Emanu-El in New York and another report that the grieving in both the East and West Coast in the US.
Sarah Florini
- Published in print:
- 2019
- Published Online:
- September 2020
- ISBN:
- 9781479892464
- eISBN:
- 9781479807185
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- NYU Press
- DOI:
- 10.18574/nyu/9781479892464.003.0005
- Subject:
- Society and Culture, Media Studies
Chapter 4 explores the role these networks played at moments of racial trauma, particularly the Zimmerman acquittal, the death of Mike Brown, and the subsequent unrest in Ferguson, Missouri. It shows ...
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Chapter 4 explores the role these networks played at moments of racial trauma, particularly the Zimmerman acquittal, the death of Mike Brown, and the subsequent unrest in Ferguson, Missouri. It shows how the flexible, malleable character of the network allowed it to be deployed for a number of simultaneous, overlapping, yet distinct activities, including creating community and solidarity through catharsis and collective grieving, circulating oppositional interpretations of events, organizing responses and political engagement, and both bypassing and directly intervening into mainstream corporate media narratives.Less
Chapter 4 explores the role these networks played at moments of racial trauma, particularly the Zimmerman acquittal, the death of Mike Brown, and the subsequent unrest in Ferguson, Missouri. It shows how the flexible, malleable character of the network allowed it to be deployed for a number of simultaneous, overlapping, yet distinct activities, including creating community and solidarity through catharsis and collective grieving, circulating oppositional interpretations of events, organizing responses and political engagement, and both bypassing and directly intervening into mainstream corporate media narratives.
Ann Burack-Weiss
- Published in print:
- 2015
- Published Online:
- May 2016
- ISBN:
- 9780231151849
- eISBN:
- 9780231525336
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Columbia University Press
- DOI:
- 10.7312/columbia/9780231151849.003.0007
- Subject:
- Sociology, Gerontology and Ageing
In this chapter Burack-Weiss turns to mortality. She writes of grieving and mourning, the death of a spouse, and the death of parents.
In this chapter Burack-Weiss turns to mortality. She writes of grieving and mourning, the death of a spouse, and the death of parents.
Ralph Houlbrooke
- Published in print:
- 2000
- Published Online:
- October 2011
- ISBN:
- 9780198208761
- eISBN:
- 9780191678134
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780198208761.003.0009
- Subject:
- History, British and Irish Early Modern History, Social History
This chapter discusses grief and mourning between the 15th and 18th centuries. Grief was recognized as a natural but potentially morbid, even fatal, ...
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This chapter discusses grief and mourning between the 15th and 18th centuries. Grief was recognized as a natural but potentially morbid, even fatal, reaction to the deaths of friends and loved ones. Opinions concerning it ranged from stern disapproval to qualified acceptance. Christian teaching called for submission to God's will and in its Catholic form encouraged the sublimation of grief in positive action on behalf of the souls of the dead. Grief was manifested by the wearing of appropriate dress, but this was only one of the functions of such garb. It was also a means of showing solidarity with bereaved kinsfolk and respect for senior relatives and public figures for whom one might feel little inward sorrow.Less
This chapter discusses grief and mourning between the 15th and 18th centuries. Grief was recognized as a natural but potentially morbid, even fatal, reaction to the deaths of friends and loved ones. Opinions concerning it ranged from stern disapproval to qualified acceptance. Christian teaching called for submission to God's will and in its Catholic form encouraged the sublimation of grief in positive action on behalf of the souls of the dead. Grief was manifested by the wearing of appropriate dress, but this was only one of the functions of such garb. It was also a means of showing solidarity with bereaved kinsfolk and respect for senior relatives and public figures for whom one might feel little inward sorrow.
John D. Golenski
- Published in print:
- 2008
- Published Online:
- November 2011
- ISBN:
- 9780195340709
- eISBN:
- 9780199999927
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780195340709.003.0013
- Subject:
- Palliative Care, Paediatric Palliative Medicine, Pain Management and Palliative Pharmacology
This chapter examines the importance of the school bereavement programs in relation to hospice care. It highlights the growing needs for school communities to establish bereavement support programs ...
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This chapter examines the importance of the school bereavement programs in relation to hospice care. It highlights the growing needs for school communities to establish bereavement support programs for providing appropriate services to grieving students following the loss of a peer. The chapter suggests that a school community's response to such crises has the potential to positively impact the stepping stones of children's social and emotional growth as they grieve and begin to heal from their loss.Less
This chapter examines the importance of the school bereavement programs in relation to hospice care. It highlights the growing needs for school communities to establish bereavement support programs for providing appropriate services to grieving students following the loss of a peer. The chapter suggests that a school community's response to such crises has the potential to positively impact the stepping stones of children's social and emotional growth as they grieve and begin to heal from their loss.
J. William Worden and James R. Monahan
- Published in print:
- 2008
- Published Online:
- November 2011
- ISBN:
- 9780195340709
- eISBN:
- 9780199999927
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780195340709.003.0008
- Subject:
- Palliative Care, Paediatric Palliative Medicine, Pain Management and Palliative Pharmacology
This chapter examines the issue of caring for bereaved parents in the context of pediatric hospice care. It explains that the death of one's child can be one of the most severe, debilitating, and ...
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This chapter examines the issue of caring for bereaved parents in the context of pediatric hospice care. It explains that the death of one's child can be one of the most severe, debilitating, and enduring losses to grieve and that this loss continues to present itself long after the pain of other deaths might have subsided. The chapter discusses the factors associated with the difficulty of dealing with the loss of a child that hospice care personnel need to understand.Less
This chapter examines the issue of caring for bereaved parents in the context of pediatric hospice care. It explains that the death of one's child can be one of the most severe, debilitating, and enduring losses to grieve and that this loss continues to present itself long after the pain of other deaths might have subsided. The chapter discusses the factors associated with the difficulty of dealing with the loss of a child that hospice care personnel need to understand.
Nancy Sherman
- Published in print:
- 2007
- Published Online:
- October 2011
- ISBN:
- 9780195315912
- eISBN:
- 9780199851201
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780195315912.003.0006
- Subject:
- Philosophy, Ancient Philosophy
This chapter discusses grief and the Stoic notions of mourning and appropriate decorum in grieving. Cicero's candid reflections about the loss of his beloved daughter Tullia in letters, and his ...
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This chapter discusses grief and the Stoic notions of mourning and appropriate decorum in grieving. Cicero's candid reflections about the loss of his beloved daughter Tullia in letters, and his developed ideas about a therapy of grief in the Tusculan Disputations, provide some of the most insightful writings on this subject. This chapter argues that the question of how and whether one should grieve is reflected deep in the dialectic of Stoic discourse itself. It begins with several objections Seneca raised to specific forms of grief as well as his own proposals for acceptable forms of grief. It then turns to Cicero's analysis and his recommendations for both the reduction of grief and its cure. Throughout, this chapter generously draws on illustrations from the military as ways of assessing Stoic claims.Less
This chapter discusses grief and the Stoic notions of mourning and appropriate decorum in grieving. Cicero's candid reflections about the loss of his beloved daughter Tullia in letters, and his developed ideas about a therapy of grief in the Tusculan Disputations, provide some of the most insightful writings on this subject. This chapter argues that the question of how and whether one should grieve is reflected deep in the dialectic of Stoic discourse itself. It begins with several objections Seneca raised to specific forms of grief as well as his own proposals for acceptable forms of grief. It then turns to Cicero's analysis and his recommendations for both the reduction of grief and its cure. Throughout, this chapter generously draws on illustrations from the military as ways of assessing Stoic claims.
Kate Macleod
- Published in print:
- 2009
- Published Online:
- November 2011
- ISBN:
- 9780199561643
- eISBN:
- 9780191730313
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780199561643.003.0013
- Subject:
- Palliative Care, Paediatric Palliative Medicine, Patient Care and End-of-Life Decision Making
This chapter discusses Seasons for Growth, which is a programme that aims to produce a sense of resilience, acceptance of change, and personal growth in people's lives. This programme uses William ...
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This chapter discusses Seasons for Growth, which is a programme that aims to produce a sense of resilience, acceptance of change, and personal growth in people's lives. This programme uses William Worden's task-centred theory of the grieving process.Less
This chapter discusses Seasons for Growth, which is a programme that aims to produce a sense of resilience, acceptance of change, and personal growth in people's lives. This programme uses William Worden's task-centred theory of the grieving process.
Sarah Pinto
- Published in print:
- 2008
- Published Online:
- May 2012
- ISBN:
- 9780520252233
- eISBN:
- 9780520941021
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- University of California Press
- DOI:
- 10.1525/california/9780520252233.003.0014
- Subject:
- Anthropology, Medical Anthropology
This chapter examines ways of addressing and coping with infant death in the context of rural poverty and transnational intervention in postcolonial India, discussing the stories told repeatedly by ...
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This chapter examines ways of addressing and coping with infant death in the context of rural poverty and transnational intervention in postcolonial India, discussing the stories told repeatedly by grieving mothers and relating these to the universalized phrases associated with the pedagogies of health intervention. It shows the ways postcolonial structures and meanings articulate with and are refused by domestic and neighborly relations, in which intimate intersubjectivities are formed between women through talk about death.Less
This chapter examines ways of addressing and coping with infant death in the context of rural poverty and transnational intervention in postcolonial India, discussing the stories told repeatedly by grieving mothers and relating these to the universalized phrases associated with the pedagogies of health intervention. It shows the ways postcolonial structures and meanings articulate with and are refused by domestic and neighborly relations, in which intimate intersubjectivities are formed between women through talk about death.
Gay Becker
- Published in print:
- 2000
- Published Online:
- May 2012
- ISBN:
- 9780520224308
- eISBN:
- 9780520925243
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- University of California Press
- DOI:
- 10.1525/california/9780520224308.003.0012
- Subject:
- Anthropology, Medical Anthropology
When infertility goes on for years, the goal of parenthood becomes an abstraction whose realization may seem increasingly unlikely. The purpose of this chapter is to restore normalcy means ...
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When infertility goes on for years, the goal of parenthood becomes an abstraction whose realization may seem increasingly unlikely. The purpose of this chapter is to restore normalcy means reconstructing the life story, and leaving space for new possibilities to emerge. Redefining normalcy is a gradual process in which women and men rework what “normal” means at the same time that they rethink their relationship with each other. Redefining normalcy for oneself means rethinking specific aspects of gender identity in relation to changing life experiences. This chapter reveals that grieving for unborn children is a catalyst for redefining normalcy. There are no rituals or other public markers to help people define or manage their grief when they have experienced infertility. The grieving process often makes it possible for people to reconsider cultural ideologies to which they previously subscribed, such as the cultural ideology of biological parenthood, and to resist those ideologies in favor of alternative solutions.Less
When infertility goes on for years, the goal of parenthood becomes an abstraction whose realization may seem increasingly unlikely. The purpose of this chapter is to restore normalcy means reconstructing the life story, and leaving space for new possibilities to emerge. Redefining normalcy is a gradual process in which women and men rework what “normal” means at the same time that they rethink their relationship with each other. Redefining normalcy for oneself means rethinking specific aspects of gender identity in relation to changing life experiences. This chapter reveals that grieving for unborn children is a catalyst for redefining normalcy. There are no rituals or other public markers to help people define or manage their grief when they have experienced infertility. The grieving process often makes it possible for people to reconsider cultural ideologies to which they previously subscribed, such as the cultural ideology of biological parenthood, and to resist those ideologies in favor of alternative solutions.
Michael D. Stein and Sandro Galea
- Published in print:
- 2020
- Published Online:
- April 2020
- ISBN:
- 9780197510384
- eISBN:
- 9780197510414
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/oso/9780197510384.003.0040
- Subject:
- Public Health and Epidemiology, Epidemiology, Public Health
This chapter assesses the inevitability of death and the need to think about how people can live healthy lives, without ignoring how they end. Once people accept that they are going to die, how they ...
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This chapter assesses the inevitability of death and the need to think about how people can live healthy lives, without ignoring how they end. Once people accept that they are going to die, how they spend their money and their time on health begins to shift. Perhaps death can help people focus on living better, on the conditions people need to create in order to generate health. Of course, people should not neglect the experience of dying. Two out of three Americans do not have advance directives that guide what treatments they receive if they are sick, and they cannot communicate the end-of-life care that they want. Engaging in a dialogue about how people manage the dying process can help correct this oversight. It is also important to remember those who are left. The dead leave behind the grieving, who can experience a burden of poor health that is directly linked to loss of their loved one. Ultimately, recognizing the inevitability of death can guide people toward ways in which they can live healthier, die with dignity, and ensure their loved ones are supported when they pass on.Less
This chapter assesses the inevitability of death and the need to think about how people can live healthy lives, without ignoring how they end. Once people accept that they are going to die, how they spend their money and their time on health begins to shift. Perhaps death can help people focus on living better, on the conditions people need to create in order to generate health. Of course, people should not neglect the experience of dying. Two out of three Americans do not have advance directives that guide what treatments they receive if they are sick, and they cannot communicate the end-of-life care that they want. Engaging in a dialogue about how people manage the dying process can help correct this oversight. It is also important to remember those who are left. The dead leave behind the grieving, who can experience a burden of poor health that is directly linked to loss of their loved one. Ultimately, recognizing the inevitability of death can guide people toward ways in which they can live healthier, die with dignity, and ensure their loved ones are supported when they pass on.
Thomas Attig
- Published in print:
- 1996
- Published Online:
- March 2012
- ISBN:
- 9780195074567
- eISBN:
- 9780199847174
- Item type:
- chapter
- Publisher:
- Oxford University Press
- DOI:
- 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780195074567.003.0001
- Subject:
- Psychology, Clinical Psychology
Martin and Louise's mother, Myra, died in a nursing home after a long struggle with multiple sclerosis. Jennifer gives birth to a stillborn baby. Bill and Dianne's three children and sister died ...
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Martin and Louise's mother, Myra, died in a nursing home after a long struggle with multiple sclerosis. Jennifer gives birth to a stillborn baby. Bill and Dianne's three children and sister died while sleeping by a gas leak. Ed and Elise's son died because of a gunshot wound to his abdomen. Kathryn's husband died because of brain tumor. Sheila committed suicide because of a family problem. Most of us have experienced similar loss. Those who tell their stories appreciate an attentive listener, they want to be understood and supported. Bereavement refers to the state or condition caused by loss through death. Grieving and mourning refer to process of accommodating to loss. Many who wish to comfort and support the bereaved also turn to sources. The grieving is ours to do and those who care about us can help us in all of these ways as we relearn our worlds.Less
Martin and Louise's mother, Myra, died in a nursing home after a long struggle with multiple sclerosis. Jennifer gives birth to a stillborn baby. Bill and Dianne's three children and sister died while sleeping by a gas leak. Ed and Elise's son died because of a gunshot wound to his abdomen. Kathryn's husband died because of brain tumor. Sheila committed suicide because of a family problem. Most of us have experienced similar loss. Those who tell their stories appreciate an attentive listener, they want to be understood and supported. Bereavement refers to the state or condition caused by loss through death. Grieving and mourning refer to process of accommodating to loss. Many who wish to comfort and support the bereaved also turn to sources. The grieving is ours to do and those who care about us can help us in all of these ways as we relearn our worlds.
